Attending your first club event can be nerve-wracking and a stressful event. The goal of the party is to have fun with likeminded people in a non-judgmental atmosphere. Whether that involves sexual activities is completely up to you. Some people attend lifestyle events just for the party with no intentions of having sex with others.
When you arrive at the party you will check in at the front desk and get a wrist band. Nametags will be available but are optional.
After checking in, you will notice that we have table and chairs set up for socializing. We will have the dance floor set up and current dance hits playing. We try to make the atmosphere like a big dance club. Depending on the event, there may be social activities that relate to the theme of the evening. There will also be many different ice breaker games laid out such as beer pong, Twister, cornhole, Naughty Jenga, and Naughty Dice games. Participation in any of the events or games is completely optional.
The Helena venue will provide a staffed bar and alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks will be available for purchase. The Missoula, Kalispell and Billings parties will be Bring Your Own Alcohol Events. Light snacks will be available at no charge.
As the night progresses, you will find out that people in the lifestyle are generally very friendly towards others and will be very welcoming towards you.
Eventually, you may find a couple that is interested in you or that you are interested in. They may ask you if you want to go "play". This is the polite way of asking if you want go have sexual activities with them. Playing does not always have to involve intercourse. It could involve just oral / manual sex. This is called soft swinging. It is best to discuss the parameters of your encounter prior to agreeing to anything.
Some things you may want to consider are things such as whether you and your partner will be in the same room or separate rooms and condom usage. Condoms are highly encouraged but are used your discretion. (We will have them available for purchase if you forget.)
If you are not interested in playing with a couple who has asked you to, politely tell them that you are not interested. In the lifestyle this is not considered rude and you shouldn't feel pressured at all to do something that you are not comfortable with.
The most important this is to have fun. Enjoy the night and hang out with some great people.
If you have any questions or have any problems, please feel free to contact the event staff.